Establishing a meditation habitFebruary 8, 2012 | 15 Comments
Beginning a meditation practice is a wonderful thing. Beginning a meditation practice with crazy expectations–as in, “I’m going to meditate from now on, every day of my life”–is a nutty thing. Establishing new habits takes time and an unswerving focus on incremental steps.
Here are some thoughts about how to slowly bring your practice to life in such a way that it will become ingrained, as opposed to a bright flash of light that is here and gone.
1. Try to practice at the same time each day. There is nothing magical about this, it’s just that our habits seem to take root more readily when such a routine is established.
2. Establish a realistic goal. Don’t say to yourself, “I’m going to meditate every single day for 20 minutes.” Why? Because you won’t. Then, when you fall off the wagon, you’ll feel like crap and become even less likely to practice. Instead, set up something completely doable–for you. For example: promise yourself to practice for 10 minutes per day, M-F for 4 weeks. At the end of that time, reassess. If 10 minutes is too long, do 5. If M-F is extreme, just do the weekends. You get the idea.
3. Establish a place for your practice. No need to get fancy with silken-covered meditation cushions and ancient shrine objects imported from Bhutan. (Not that there’s anything wrong with that.) Just keep it simple. Place your meditation cushion or chair in a spot you feel happy to be in–perhaps in a part of your house that gets gorgeous light or a corner of your bedroom that is quiet and peaceful. If you like, you could have a small offering table or shrine. Again, keep it simple. Just some fresh flowers or a candle or a photo of someone or something inspiring.
4. Before practice, affirm your commitment to what you are about to do by saying to yourself, “now is my time for practice–everything else can wait.” Because it can.
5. It might be helpful to read a paragraph or a page from a dharma book, or some other work you find meaningful.
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