Odds of Marriage
November 4, 2010 | 15 CommentsDriving away from Shambhala Mountain Center yesterday, after a writers’ retreat. Thinking about love… 12 minutes, 22 seconds worth… ‘scuse the turn signal sounds…
Not my most flattering angle, but nonetheless…
driving from susan piver on Vimeo.
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Very moving Susan. Thank you so much.
You are so welcome, Megan. Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment.
this was so so helpful to hear. 1 month in to a new marriage. feeling the depths and the opening in huge ways. thank you.
I loved your musings while driving through beautiful Colorado, Susan. Thirteen years into my 2nd marriage I am experiencing how it feels to keep both feet in, rather than one out the back door. Somehow just knowing, I’m in, no matter what? feels like a huge relief. And yes, continuing to crack open as I surrender to this deeper love, with all its peaks and valleys.
Rambling. Peace, Betsy
Susan!
Thank you for sharing your drive with. I feel like you are
a best friend and I was sitting next to you in the car…I
kept talking and laughing at the screen…
You are a gift and your smile lights me up when I’m in
my heartache
Linda in D.C.
I really appreciated all your thoughts and especially the explanation of the Bodhisattva vow. I married later in life which for the most part is a blessing (except that we are trying to raise two young children in our pre-“golden years”). But it’s funny because we both are becoming interested in Buddhism independently — something unforeseeable when we took our vows 10 years ago. Wish us luck. I have your “Afraid” book in print and on my iPod so I have some excellent tools! Thanks!
Now this looks really like a chick blog.
Having said that, I do like some of your blogging esp on meditation.
😛
Jason, welcome to the chick blog! Except when it isn’t. And welcome to that too…
Susan – how glad I am to have found you. I am 10 years into a marriage and it seems that for 10 years I have been trying to be at peace within my marriage. Your inisights on applying buddhism (the home in my heart) to this constant source of suffering is timely and so wonderfully helpful. I knew it stemmed from attachment but defining that attachment within the context of a lay person’s marriage has always eluded me. Thank you for a nudge in changing my perspective and applying Buddha’s teachings to the reality most people live in. I think I will be looking you up often.
“Whoever is seeking God by ways, is finding ways and losing God, who in ways, is hidden, But whoever seeks for God without ways, will find him as he is in himself.” Meister Eckhart
I can see how beautiful it is – reflected in your sunglasses. 🙂
This was really beautiful. Made me re-evaluate what I look for in a relationship. I was recently engaged and broke it off (painfully) because it was not an engaging relationship. It is a scary thing to be married and complacent.
Beautifully said, Susan. I could listen to you all day. Your ideas and words resonate with me and hearing you speak off the cuff like this is energizing to me!
As my boyfriend and I are contemplating if we’re compatible and he asked if we could start over much is to be pondered and I realized as well that I don’t know him and how could I have said yes to a commitment to a relationship with someone not fully aware. Holding onto the outcome of “YAY! I have a boyfriend after 7+ years and the cycle is broken!” The fears that have come up as well, are a clear reminder that I’ve got work to do and now I’ve been blessed to do it with someone.
As I realized I had some questions and started to write them in my journal… I remembered your book I purchased about 6+ years ago so that I could be ready when I was about to get married.
I love your intro and resonate with your expression and the depth of your sincerity.
Truth be told, I Google’d you to find out if you were still married… and I find this particular video… serendipitously (of course).
Thank you for your words. <3
Ms. Xochi
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