I have discovered that committing to marriage meant committing to a lifetime of delight and sadness, inseparable from each other. Every time I look into my dear one’s eyes and feel how deeply we’re connected, the moment disappears before I can actually hold it-and I have to watch it do so. It’s excruciating. . It’s […]
Heartbreak
I had my heart broken once, and I’ll never, ever forget it. I’d certainly had failed relationships before and breakups that caused grief and sorrow. This was different. The pain ravaged my life. I filled dozens of journals. I lost ten pounds in two weeks. I made desperate, sobbing phone calls to friends in the […]
A follow-up to my previous post…
I developed a personal strategy from this experience. I learned that getting someone to care about me, even for a moment, even if he or she is just pretending, calms me down. When I feel myself getting panicky on a plane or in an elevator, I say to the person next to me, “I get […]
Where does the enneagram come from?
I’ve begun work on my book about the enneagram, something I’ve wanted to write for a long time. I plan to do so from a Buddhist perspective. I am discovering what this means in the act of writing. It is quite natural to wonder, “where does it come from?” Good question. I have searched high […]
Kripalu
Here I am, about to start teaching a program at Kripalu, a lovely program/retreat center in Western Massachusetts. I took these photos when I went to see our program room just before it filled. 50 people would soon take their seats for “The Power of Meditation.” Who are they? What do they think […]