How to be Happy: Step Three

April 15, 2019 | 13 Comments | FavoriteLoadingAdd to favorites

Meditation begins at 14:12
Audio only is here.

Hello, dear meditator.

We are investigating the six paramitas or transcendent actions, aka the virtues that lead to a world of sanity, goodness, peace, and joy. What’s not to like?! Today we investigate the third paramita, patience. If you missed the first two, they are here and here.

Thoughts? Was there a time when someone was patient with you in a way that changed your life or your viewpoint? Do tell!

Love, Susan,



  • Posted by:  Eileen Burns

    “Overcoming other people’s destructiveness”….DING! Bells are ringing here…THANK YOU…. Thank you for all the years of info and wisdom…AND patience, if I may say so….. MUCH LOVE, Eileen XO

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      And much love to you too, Eileen! xo S

  • Posted by:  Evelyn

    Susan, Gratefully, I have benefited from your Open Heart Project going on three years. I so valued your sharing and instruction today. I found your explanations, reasoning, and encouragement over-the-top meaningful today when I am trying to keep my wits about me during transition. What day isn’t without transition? Thank you for your generous spirit. Through you, I am able to model for others in my daily living. I am not perfect but keep coming back to center.

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      I so appreciate this generous feedback, Evelyn. It means so much. And thank you, thank you for paying our practice forward. That is what it is all about. With love, Susan

  • Posted by:  Michal Nathan Koren

    Thanks again it’s a pleasure to listen to you, with love Michal🍀

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      And it is lovely to practice with you! <3 S

  • Posted by:  Sue May

    A couple of comments. First, Harvard is reaching up to the sky to get you, dear teacher. Good on them.
    Second, I have been practicing patience and honest responding with my husband, who becomes incensed about the current political situation. It was causing me to have growing dislike and discomfort toward him, since he vented full steam on me. I screwed up my courage one day and told him that his anger was scaring me and I wanted to pull away from him (even though I agreed with him). I wish I could say that he toned his fuming down, but not so much. What has changed is that he now knows how it affects me and he has apologized, saying that he neither wants to scare me or push me away. So he continues, but I feel a bit removed from his maelstrom and he recognizes that sometimes I just need to take a solo walk. I think that my frank response, said without rancor, gave him good info while at the same time allowed me to feel heard. Baby steps.

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      Thank you for your kind words. And I love learning a bit about how you are approaching patience with your husband–and he with you. It sounds like you are both trying, which is the very definition of patience! Thank you so, so much for taking our practice to heart. Much love, Susan

    • Posted by:  Patricia Henderson

      Thank you so much for your post Sue May (and thank you, Susan Piver for these wonderful teachings and meditations). Sue, my husband too can get quite verbally violent about certain situations and I now realise that my feeling also is that it scares me. If I’d taken the time to explore my reactions I would have realised that that was the case. Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s thrown a bright light on my own.

      • Posted by:  Sue May

        Thank you for your thoughts, Patricia. I had a hard time defining my feelings, and knew it was different than anger or sadness. It feels a little like a child who feels helpless when adults argue. It also enabled my husband, who really is a kind person, to back off a bit. Frankly, my reaction of wanting to run also scared me. Staying in the room was an act of patience for me.

  • Posted by:  Jo gardner

    Thank you so much Susan for today’s meditation practice. I don’t think I could do without you. You give so much of yourself, I feel privileged to be in the open heart project practicing with you. Love jo xx🙏

  • Posted by:  Mike

    I hope your talk goes well, I am sure it will!

  • Posted by:  Barbara Ann Powell

    Hi Susan,
    Thank you so much for your Teachings. Are there some readings/authors you can recommend related to the Paramitas?


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